Dic: when all is said and done

when all is said and done
said when you are about to tell someone the most important fact they should remember in a situation:

• When all is said and done, you can only do your best.

when all is said and done
(Cliché) when everything is finished and settled; when everything is considered.

• When all is said and done, this isn't such a bad part of the country to live in after all.
• When all is said and done, I believe I had a very enjoyable time on my vacation.

when all is said and done
something that you say when you are about to tell someone the most important fact in a situation.

• When all is said and done, a child's moral upbringing is the parents' responsibility.

when all is said and done
when everything has been considered.

• When all is said and done, we can't reduce the number of nurses without lowering the quality of patient care.

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McGraw-Hill Dictionary of American Idioms and Phrasal Verbs, 

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